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TRIBUTE TO A FRIEND THAT DIED TOO YOUNG

By Emmanuel Chinonso Emmanuel

Many times we wait until a friend has died to tell the world what a wonderful
person they were, and I‟m just as guilty as the next person about that. I write
this with great sadness over the unimaginable loss of a  rising  „star‟  someone I
considered to be a young man touched by God Himself.

I  logged onto  whatsapp in  on Wednesday  27th of June, 2018 time was 11:45am.
While I  was on whatsapp  I  saw something wrong, dreadfully wrong.  A  mutual
friend of ours had just uploaded his picture as an update with a caption  „Rest in
peace‟. I said to myself “this is impossible, it can‟t be…”

Onyedika was far too young to be dead, only in his mid 20s. I asked our mutual
friend what had happened and she said he was involved in a car  accident  while
driving  thereby confirming my worst fears.  I  dropped my phone in the next few
seconds tears came down my eyes.

Meeting Onyedika
Onyedika and I met as back in 2011, in Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka. I
was  in  100level  Sciences  he  was  in  200level  Engineering.  Because  he  and  I
were not in  the same  faculty we  didn‟t  formally meet until the following year,
2012.

I  was in a friend‟s room who happened to be in the same faculty as him,  this
friend‟s name was  Chidozie  [nick name Dosky].  As  at that time the room was
where  I  could go and  chill, chat,  watch movies,  collect  movies and play video
games. Onyedika was in the room that evening and  watching a movie when  I
came to join them and that was when our friendship started.

Staying In Touch
Throughout  the  university,  we  were  in  touch  and  our  friendship  grew  from
being a friend of my friend‟s  to being my friend.  I  addressed him as Engineer
while  he  called  me  Sylar  [  he  actally  never  got  the  pronunciation  as  he  kept
telling me to change the name but still he never  stop calling me Sylar].  In  my
final year  He  thought  me  certain  things  I  know about  Microsoft  office and also
helped me  stop my laptop from being damaged by a beverage drink that poured
on  the  keyboard.  We  both  graduated  together  because  unlike  him  I  read  a  4
years course.

After graduation due to social media we were still in touch and this year 2018
we  spoke  twice on  phone.  He  called  to  hear  from  me  and because  he  needed
help  with  getting  his  transcript  from  the  University  of  which  my  Younger
Brother  was going to assist him in obtaining.  The second time  he called was in
the  month  of  May,  2018.  He  told  me  certain  things  about  himself;  I  said  to
myself  I  am  beginning  to  have  friends  in  high  places.  I  didn‟t  know  this  day
would so soon.

Remembering Onyedika
The  comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had
one. I want to close with a brief tribute to my friend Onyedika, who died far too
young and with much brightness ahead of him. If I  were to see him now , this is
what I would tell him;






Onyedika, Chizzy and Chidozie [Dosky] after final exams.

Engineer, I can’t believe that you’re gone. I can’t believe that I’ll never be able 
to see your ideas and thoughts come to life. I can’t believe you will not be able 
to do all the great things I imagined you do.
My heart still bleeds as I write these final words. Goodbye Engineer, goodbye 
my friend. I hope that wherever you are, you finally have peace in your heart 
and in your soul. 

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